Show Notes

What if the breakthrough you’ve been chasing isn’t another marketing strategy…

But a different relationship with money?

For years, entrepreneurs have been told to hustle harder, post more content, and perfect their sales scripts. But what happens when the real obstacle isn’t your strategy at all?

In this episode of For the 23%, Dielle McMillan sits down with family and business constellations facilitator Kyla Mitsunaga to explore how healing unconscious beliefs around money, marketing, and visibility helped Kyla break through a long-standing income ceiling and grow her business from $50,000 to over $140,000—while finally building the business she actually wanted.

Why More Strategy Isn’t Always the Answer

For years, Kyla was successful by many standards.

She coached clients.

She hosted retreats.

She spoke at events.

But despite investing in masterminds and learning new business strategies, she remained stuck around the same income level.

The problem wasn’t a lack of knowledge.

It was the relationship she had with her work, her marketing, and her money.

Sometimes the next breakthrough doesn’t require another certification.

It requires looking beneath the surface.

What Are Family Constellations?

Family Constellations is a healing modality that explores unconscious family patterns and inherited beliefs that continue shaping our lives today.

Instead of simply talking through a problem, participants observe it from the outside.

People in the room represent:

• Family members
• Emotions
• Goals
• Money
• Clients
• Confidence
• Even a business itself

Watching these relationships unfold creates a level of awareness that’s difficult to access through traditional coaching alone.

As Kyla explains, the experience often validates what people have intuitively felt all along—they simply couldn’t see it clearly until it was reflected back to them.

The Limiting Beliefs You Hear May Not Be Yours

One of the most powerful moments in the conversation comes when Dielle and Kyla discuss where limiting beliefs actually come from.

Many entrepreneurs hear thoughts like:

• “Who do you think you are?”
• “When pigs fly.”
• “Nobody will pay that.”
• “You’re asking for too much.”

We often assume those thoughts belong to us.

But Kyla offers a different perspective.

If a belief consistently works against your growth, there’s a good chance it isn’t truly yours.

It may belong to:

• A parent
• A grandparent
• A caregiver
• Cultural conditioning
• Generational experiences

Healing begins by recognizing the difference between your own voice and the voices you’ve inherited.

The Relationship That Changed Everything

Kyla didn’t simply learn better marketing.

She built a new relationship with marketing.

Instead of viewing sales as pushy or manipulative, she reframed marketing as sharing something she deeply believes in.

That one shift transformed everything.

She completed Dielle’s 30-Day Sales Challenge once.

Then again.

Then again.

Eventually completing it ten times.

Consistency replaced resistance.

Marketing stopped feeling heavy.

And revenue followed.

Curiosity Is One of the Most Underrated Business Skills

Throughout the interview, one theme appears again and again:

Curiosity.

Instead of assuming growth wasn’t possible, Kyla began asking questions like:

• What if I tripled my revenue?
• What if my clients could experience this too?
• What if I treated marketing differently?
• What if this belief isn’t mine?

Those simple questions created space for new possibilities.

Curiosity often unlocks breakthroughs long before confidence arrives.

Your Relationship With Your Goal Matters

Many entrepreneurs think confidence comes first.

Kyla argues something different.

It’s not only about reaching the goal.

It’s about your relationship with the goal.

Your relationship with:

• Confidence
• Marketing
• Visibility
• Money
• Success

When those relationships shift, your actions naturally begin shifting too.

Business growth becomes less about forcing results and more about becoming someone who can receive them.

Healing Doesn’t Mean Removing Fear

One misconception about personal development is that successful entrepreneurs stop feeling afraid.

They don’t.

Fear still shows up.

Rejection still happens.

Potential clients still say no.

The difference is that healing allows you to recognize fear without letting it direct your business.

Instead of turning toward criticism, you keep turning toward your mission.

That subtle shift changes everything.

Why Representation Matters in Entrepreneurship

The conversation also highlights something larger than business strategy.

Both Dielle and Kyla reflect on what it means to be women of color leading in industries historically dominated by white voices.

Representation creates permission.

When entrepreneurs see women who look like them leading movements, building wealth, and creating innovative work, new possibilities become visible.

Sometimes your success isn’t only for you.

It’s evidence for someone else that they can build something extraordinary too.

Final Takeaway: Heal the Relationship, Not Just the Results

Most entrepreneurs spend their energy trying to fix outcomes.

More clients.

More money.

More followers.

But sustainable growth often begins much earlier.

It begins with healing your relationship to the things you’re trying to create.

Because when your relationship with money changes…

Your marketing changes.

Your confidence changes.

Your decisions change.

And eventually, your business changes too.

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